tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post7863573974834067162..comments2023-05-12T05:10:30.674-06:00Comments on Hamguin's Hide-not: Low expectations vs. a negative attitudeRick Hamrickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-26550963112035189382009-12-12T04:00:58.000-07:002009-12-12T04:00:58.000-07:00Scott, I'm also very fond of the theory my fri...Scott, I'm also very fond of the theory my friend Bob Sutton (http://bobsutton.typepad.com/my_weblog/2008/04/karl-weick-on-w.html) offers: he says that to argue as if you are right, and to listen as if you are wrong, provides the most-fertile ground for exercising a disagreement and coming out of it with a solution.<br /><br />Bob is a smart man and a very humble man, as he credits management guru Karl Weick every chance he gets, not only for the "arguments strongly delivered, while weakly held" theory, but for others as well. The link I include points to a wonderful discussion of what Weick sees as 'wisdom.'Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-76443562887368970892009-12-11T13:33:47.000-07:002009-12-11T13:33:47.000-07:00Excellent...reminds me of Robert Ringer's &quo...Excellent...reminds me of Robert Ringer's "Positive Expectation of a Negative Result"...deciding you will succeed, but anticipating and preparing for everything that can go wrong and getting there first!Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-50567588167140080542009-11-20T06:23:08.000-07:002009-11-20T06:23:08.000-07:00Julie, Rick just posted a new blog entry.
Now it&...Julie, Rick just posted a new blog entry.<br /><br />Now it's your turn.Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-89096576647133649232009-11-20T03:02:32.000-07:002009-11-20T03:02:32.000-07:00Ok, let's practice:
Rick should write in his b...Ok, let's practice:<br />Rick should write in his blog more often.<br />Now you go.Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-60221095604256827862009-11-19T04:01:38.000-07:002009-11-19T04:01:38.000-07:00O--thanks, as always, for your supportive, kind wo...O--thanks, as always, for your supportive, kind words. There are days when my attitude is less than you portray it, and on those days it is very helpful to have this place of mine to come and read encouragement from you and other friends who stop by.<br /><br />Kelly, I LOVE your dream! In fact, it is something I plan to try the next time I'm in an environment where it is possible. Why not open the floodgates and let Love flow? My powerfully intuitive teacher-wife uses the "radiate Love" technique which is not disimilar to the dream you describe. In her case, it is not focused, but broadcast just as the sun radiates light and heat.<br /><br />Andy, your inner curmudgeon is welcome here! Thanks so much for stopping by and letting me know you did.Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-56173946924206695982009-11-12T11:22:03.000-07:002009-11-12T11:22:03.000-07:00But the cranky old German in me has so much FUN be...But the cranky old German in me has so much FUN being a pessimist!<br /><br />Seriously though, there is much to learn in this post for folks like me.<br /><br />Thanks.Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-28697891177891738082009-11-10T19:45:50.000-07:002009-11-10T19:45:50.000-07:00This whole discussion reminds me of a dream I had ...This whole discussion reminds me of a dream I had last night. A few people were in a room lounging on floor and sofas. A teacher figure told us to make contact with one another. I took Elspeth's wrist, she took the hand of the person next to her, someone took my other hand. Then the teacher said, "No, no, touch like you mean it." Then we opened the channels of love energy among us and wow, what a difference. The places of skin contact suddenly grew warmer, and we could feel the Love pulsing along a circuitry we formed.Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-62440915219678840412009-11-10T19:12:56.000-07:002009-11-10T19:12:56.000-07:00I agree with Bernie that this is (as is every post...I agree with Bernie that this is (as is every post here) a sensitive and deeply thought post, filled with hard-won wisdom. I love that via the Internet so many people can share and feel a oneness with each other. Everyone from you, Rick to Patti and David and Bernie and me, all through this web that connects us all and makes apparent the reality that we indeed are one. <br /><br />You have a great attitude, Rick. I don't know how people who financially support others deal with the pressure and responsibility of such a task. I supported my first husband financially and found it very difficult. I have never had children or had to deal with others depending upon me, but I think that the hardest thing about being in that situation and then not having a job is keeping up a good attitude. You have a GREAT attitude!<br /><br />Blessings and love,<br /><br />ORick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-25436466333385856102009-11-10T11:05:01.000-07:002009-11-10T11:05:01.000-07:00Bernie, I am deeply touched by your comment. In fa...Bernie, I am deeply touched by your comment. In fact, I am touched enough to wish for all of us that we experience such a touching, such a connection with another, such an opportunity to continue to build the web of humanity which transcends all the silly divisions which some seek to create.<br /><br />When all of us realize the singular notion, the one fact, the iota of being, that little detail that we are ALL ONE, it will become a normal part of our lives, this connection I feel today with you. I'm not regretting or seeking to stop the tears. In fact, I have learned to enjoy them, as they are part of the joy inherent in the experience. Instead, I look to spread them.<br /><br />Thanks so much, Bernie!Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-4555689776351879212009-11-10T10:50:21.000-07:002009-11-10T10:50:21.000-07:00I am honored, Rick, that you should dedicate such ...I am honored, Rick, that you should dedicate such a sensitive and deeply thought post to me. Something about your post reminded me of one of my posts, naturally. It's called <a href="http://www.deepfun.com/threshold.html" rel="nofollow">Lowering the Fun Threshold</a>, in a way, it's also about lowering expectations, about appreciating the "minor fun" of the daily game, the breeze, the light of the pre-dawn, post-dusk, the subtle surround that enriches almost every moment, or perhaps ever other. It's sometimes just too hard to be sensitive to these little happinesses, especially when we crowd them out with expectations of major fun, of overwhelming love, of transforming beauty. <br /> <br />I think your sharing of such hard-earned wisdom is a gift, an act of love. And I thank you for it, and for sharing me with it and vice versa.Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-54610800928591023972009-11-10T10:48:01.000-07:002009-11-10T10:48:01.000-07:00I am honored, Rick, that you should dedicate such ...I am honored, Rick, that you should dedicate such a sensitive and deeply thought post to me. Something about your post reminded me of one of my posts, naturally. It's called <a href="http://www.deepfun.com/threshold.html" rel="nofollow">Lowering the Fun Threshold</a>, in a way, it's also about lowering expectations, about appreciating the "minor fun" of the daily game, the breeze, the light of the pre-dawn, post-dusk, the subtle surround that makes enriches almost every moment, or perhaps ever other. It's sometimes very hard to be sensitive to these little happinesses, especially when we crowd them out with expectations of major fun, of overwhelming love, of transforming beauty. <br /><br />I think your sharing of such hard-earned wisdom is a gift, an act of love. And I thank you for it, and for sharing me with it and vice versa.Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.com