tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post4735805657827081053..comments2023-05-12T05:10:30.674-06:00Comments on Hamguin's Hide-not: Special Surprise Gift (NOT)Rick Hamrickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-53586428110111872532007-11-08T22:08:00.000-07:002007-11-08T22:08:00.000-07:00Olivia--whatever you decide it takes, I'm looking ...Olivia--whatever you decide it takes, I'm looking forward to seeing your feedback on creating a complaint-free world.<BR/><BR/>In my opinion, it is an adventure worthy of you, and we who are participating will all gain from you doing so, too!Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-7209599860100223412007-11-08T10:18:00.000-07:002007-11-08T10:18:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing all of this, Rick. I admire ...Thank you for sharing all of this, Rick. I admire you for getting so far in your process and your commitment to creating a complaint-free world. This is an important lesson that I can learn from.<BR/><BR/>I'm still playing around at the margins of this challenge and not really diving in, thus not reaping the hard good lessons that lead to real change. I'm using the excuse of not having my bracelet yet to remind me, but I'm missing out on all of this 'good stuff'. <BR/><BR/>Your post has inspired me about missed opportunities and I'm going for it today, with a rubber band around my wrist. It's too hard to watch from the sidelines when such cool things are going on as your post described. <BR/><BR/>Thank you, Rick,<BR/><BR/>Love, blessings, and a complaint-free day,<BR/><BR/>OOliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06058356843151306428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-77255216038811889032007-11-08T10:14:00.000-07:002007-11-08T10:14:00.000-07:00Ladies--Thanks so much for the wisdom and encourag...Ladies--Thanks so much for the wisdom and encouragement.<BR/><BR/>Jane--your boss is saying just what I need to hear today: let the other person's drama have a voice. It's the letting go of my own internal drama which becomes less easy as the intensity of the drama builds. The answer, of course, is defusing it long before that point.<BR/><BR/>Kelly--that reality-vs-my-vision suffering is, also, a letting go issue. Just like the "letting go of the rope" analogy. <BR/><BR/>Monique--thanks for the notes! And I never even knew I had a director, much less a role. I love the stage analogy--it's what you do with the reality you are faced with which matters in the moment, not how much you regret that the reality is not the one you planned on!<BR/><BR/>The one part of yesterday's experience which was reinforcement for me was recognizing my breathing and consciously feeling it slow and deepen when I paid attention. That's now almost automatic when I feel stress: breathe, breathe, breathe.<BR/><BR/>Now, on to the next moment!Rick Hamrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09621981388013851089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-67957986753785436482007-11-08T09:28:00.000-07:002007-11-08T09:28:00.000-07:00In many ways a lot of what we learn in theater is ...In many ways a lot of what we learn in theater is applicable to real life. After reading your blog and the struggle I have just a couple of 'notes' to give you. The main one: the wobble isn't interesting....the recovery is.<BR/><BR/>the wobble refers to times on the stage (of life) where we forget our lines, our blocking, our motivation and things go wrong...the set falls over, our pants end up around our ankles...and you lose your place. It is in that moment that you have the power to grab an audience (the rest of us that exist in the world with you) and win them over by how you recover. <BR/><BR/>And at times all you can do is if follow the three step plan back to where you need to be:<BR/>1. take a deep breath<BR/>2. lower your center (get out of your head and the loud sounds your mind is trying to make)<BR/>3. focus on the next moment only.<BR/><BR/>Enjoy the gift of starting from day one! :)Monique Kleinhanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09208648372626654853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-4309197070801469252007-11-08T08:13:00.000-07:002007-11-08T08:13:00.000-07:00I know exactly what you mean. For me the key thing...I know exactly what you mean. For me the key thing you said was about imposing your vision on it, my vision on it. Almost all my suffering comes from my having painted a picture of what the future SHOULD look like.<BR/><BR/>I used to work right up to the last minute, leaving myself just barely time to race down the stairs, across the street and catch the bus.<BR/><BR/>When I stood up to put my coat on was when a dear friend and coworker chose to start asking me questions. Sigh. My suffering came from having ordered the future to be what I wanted it to be: me sailing out the door. Once I stopped expecting that and started allowing time for this sweet woman to ask me all her questions, the resentment in me melted away. Other times I learned to politely say, "Sorry, my bus is coming."Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08182881635816655061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7263788220250087491.post-58005133144208661812007-11-08T07:59:00.000-07:002007-11-08T07:59:00.000-07:00Glad to hear that you are still willing to keep st...Glad to hear that you are still willing to keep starting over with new efforts. A couple of times lately when someone or something pisses me off, I have found myself SO near the edge of a verbal lashing and then I remind myself to stop and just let it go. My boss, such a wise and amazing woman, taught me the concept of "seek first to understand". So often people are going through something stessful and it comes out in the way they communicate. If I realize that there could be something unspoken that they are not saying, it makes it easier for me to give it up.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01569351612820181636noreply@blogger.com